Just got asked to leave an IB internship mid summer... that's probably a first
I can't believe I'm writing this publicly, but I know I can't tell anyone else in my life. Just a few hours ago, I was asked to leave my internship. Long story short, I've been going through a lot lately. Currently processing that I was severely physically, emotionally, and verbally abused by my parents for the past 15 years (the emotional and verbal continues even though they are still in another state and I'm in a large city). My sister is still encountering this back at home (I'm supporting her through this as much as I can) and my parents are becoming even more controlling by the minute. They track my location hourly, to get a glimpse of how bad it is. Anyways, the realization that I will never truly be free from them has hit me like a ton of bricks and I've been unable to keep up with the internship. Turning in assignments a few days late, not showing up to company events, and not completing the pre-work. I know I sound like a lazy ass, but I'm just not myself right now.
The company picked up on this and quietly told me it was best if I leave, understanding that my behavior was due to mental struggles. I did not give them details to my situation. They will be giving me prorated pay, which is very kind of them. However, I don't know what to do about my resume. A gap in the summer for no reason? Do I tell employers?
I'm realizing I only did IB to make my parents happy. The other interns will have no idea what happened because I didn't socialize much, as you can probably understand. But interestingly enough, I feel free. I have time to focus on what I actually want to do (finance and accounting double major so I guess it's not ANYTHING lol, but I have a few options). My plan is to spend the days I have left in the city studying for the CPA, applying to all finance- related jobs, and interviewing (if anyone will take me seriously). But also, my parents cannot know about this or my safety is actually compromised. I'm planning on asking the company if they can pay me every two weeks like normal, so it doesn't look sus. Any words of encouragement or advice would be appreciated, thank you for reading.
You’re gonna be okay! Figure out the personal stuff and get back on the grind whatever that may be.
Thank you <3
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You can definitely be free. Sounds like they have access to your bank statements and pay for your phone. Make a new apple ID or whatever it takes so they can't track you, get a separate bank account, and get any job (preferably in your major), so you never have to rely on them for anything.
You'll feel even more free than you do now. Good luck and hope everything is okay.
Thank you so much, really appreciate this comment
Prioritise getting your independence however you possibly can, then break all communication with them and forget they even existed. Pave your own way. Godspeed brother
Exactly my plan from here on out - thank you. Godspeed
Prorated pay means that you get paid a portion of the salary proportionate to the amount of time worked, hence your parents can realize that you are getting paid less than you are supposed to.
I am in no position to give you life advice as mental health is no joke and you should do what makes you feel happy, but I'll share my ignorant point of view.
Personally I don't feel like quitting mid summer internship is a solution to your problem. It could even annoy future employers. I would try to push through it and then look for a job that makes you happy and independent.
I didn't really have a choice on whether to leave or not. They asked me to hand in my laptop and ID/badge. I also don't plan on telling future employers about IB at all, and I've never left an internship mid-summer
Let me guess
Asian/Indian parents?
White parents generally don't micromanage adult childrens locations hourly etc (nor do the kids let it happen)
African (female).
African immigrants?
A lot of Asian or middle eastern(and African I guess too) immigrants parents are suuuuuper controlling. There just is an independence we have in the USA other countries don't understand. For many immigrant parents they have barely no life outside family. No friends no hobbies. It's all family and it lends itself to controlling them
Sent you a PM
I'm really sorry that you're in this situation. Your #1 goal should be to become fully independent from your parents. The best starting place is to gain financial independence. This means your own bank account and credit card. Money might become tough for a while if they cut you off financially; plan to have a job while you're back on campus.
How old is your sister? I know it can be scary with her still trapped in their household. Hopefully she's leaving for college soon.
Please feel free to DM me. We can speak offline and I can help you set these things up.
Thank you so much for this, just sent over a DM
Find a good lawyer and sue the shit out of them. Just claim abuse from them, doesn’t matter it’s verbal mental or physical
I appreciate the comment, but making things public like this would make things worse and again compromise the safety of my sister and I. I'm suing them in my head though
Court record is all sealed, trust me. Only way it goes public is if your parents leak it. Just the thought of you actually suing them will stop them from escalating for a while. Talk to a lawyer first anw
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