The weeks leading up to my offer

Hey all,I don't really know who to talk to about this so I turned here to let some things go and hopefully give any of you all going through a tough time some hope.(First-gen, non-target)Last summer I was in a pretty average corporate internship, "working" virtual and overall just feeling like garbage about the work I was doing and the role. I never thought that any bank would glance at me, but I did everything I seemingly could to network and get my foot in the door. As time continues to pass I am able to look back on the struggles that I have overcome, and look forward to what the future will bring, knowing that I am stronger for going through this loss.There is hope for the future, and I'm not saying this lightly when I say that hearing others stories on this website has helped me overcome some of my own struggles. I hope you all know that good company and giving yourself time can help heal a lot of wounds.Thanks for providing me a space that I can be open.

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Sorry about your mom. Congrats on the job.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Hey man, my condolences to your mom, she sounds like a real champion. Rest assured, she is watching your growth and you becoming the man she always knew you could be. Congrats on the offer, you seem to have extreme strength of will, and that will serve you well. Now crush the road before you and make your mother proud every day!

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11 Days ago I lost both my sister and my father in a tragic accident. I received multiple job offers in quantitative finance and just got back from a vacation with friends where I could destress. What keeps me motivated and going and gives me the courage to live life to the fullest and not look back and dwell on sad moments like this is I know my dad would've wanted me to pursue my dreams, have a fruitful career, and have an incredible family. Although he won't be seeing me graduate, hold his grandkids, or see me get married, he will always be a part of me and I know he will always be looking over me.

I could either sulk in a dark room developing unhealthy habits and feeling sorry for myself wishing that my dad and sister were still on this Earth, or what I've chosen to do is realize the world doesn't revolve around me and life goes on - so it's much better for me mentally to learn how to live a successful, healthy, and happy life without them rather than wish for the impossible and drive myself crazy. Things do get better, and we are both stronger for being able to overcome this loss and look towards the positives in life. There is no reason to dwell on negative and unhappy thoughts, sure maybe people will grieve differently than we will but I have the exact same mindset as you. Please feel free to PM me as this happened to me 11 days ago.

 

Couldn’t have said it better, and I am terribly sorry for your loss. I was speaking to a close mentor around the time when this happened and he told me that I can either use this tragedy to grow into a stronger person, or I can let it destroy me.

I choose growth everyday. And I know you will do.

Make him and your sister proud and grow everyday.

 

Sorry for your loss. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

“Everyday is a new day
I'm thankful for every breath I take
I won't take it for granted
So I learn from my mistakes

It's beyond my control, sometimes it's best to let go
Whatever happens in this lifetime
So I trust in love
You have given me peace of mind”

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

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