Really sad about growing up
I really like all the people I work with at my bank, and I really like the industry (RX) in general too.
I've really enjoyed myself this summer, but I can't help but feel insanely depressed about growing up. I was born in 2000, and I remember my life from 2006 to 2012 vividly...everything was so magical. I guess it's like that as a kid. I'd watch shit like Star Wars and Ironman, and it was real. I'm sure you were all like that at some point. High school was super fun too, but now I just feel so depressed about knowing that I'm going to grow up and die. I mean, I always knew it would happen, but I suppose it took going into an office building doing corp work everyday to really feel it.
I love being an adult, but sometimes I wish I could have just been a little kid forever...
Every single person feels this way, unless they had an unusually traumatic childhood. It’s part of growing up. I’m not trying to minimize it for you, I know it sucks. Big time. But part of being an adult is accepting it for what it is, and finding a way to appreciate your childhood, but not reach for recreating it. If you do that, it will become a real problem. You can’t be a man-child. That’s not fun for anyone
I have a cousin who is 15+ years older, and was watching over his son who is like 7, and I found it so fun and cool, and it made me wish to be a father one day, but I can't help but still feel sad.
Had an unusually traumatic childhood. I'm still sad about growing up. Just sad that I will never get to experience the childhood that my friends and colleagues experienced.
I also had a rough go of it as a kid. I have a great job with a great company and great colleagues. But damn I’d love to be 10 again. Not even to change anything in my past, just to relive childhood. Silver lining I guess is being an adult makes me excited to have kids one day.
There’s really no magic in being a young professional. I feel like the next new and exciting thing to look forward to is raising kids, and then when you send them off that’s extremely bittersweet and kind of equivalent to the feeling you and every other person this age has
There’s the initial period of excitement being out their own your own, but I agree it’s very much a means to the end of having more financial security which will enable you to do and see more. Still, we can manage to always appreciate the small moments and good times when they present themselves.
Tell me you were the bullied nerd without telling me you were the bullied nerd.
Same. There's a lot from childhood I miss but for the most part I've just been getting happier as I've gotten older.
Watch the movie “inside out”. This was all about what goes on in a person’s mind as they grow up.
A few things here and advice for younger posters. This is a great post because this feeling is real, very common, and sucks!
Best is yet to come if you want it to and hold out long enough you guys, I promise.
This is very good perspective. Thank you.
Holy shit man. What a message. Seriously made my day and gave me new perspectives to think about.
From one Hardo to another, I thank you.
Well said, well said.
This
This is a great comment. +1
Cheers, one of most thoughtful and honest comments I’ve seen here. Struggled with a lot of what you mentioned right after school, but it got better and I became very thankful for what I have and the people in my life (even if they’re all in different cities).
A lot of being happy requires taking a step back and recognizing all you have to be happy about. It’s never going to be perfect, but it’s often pretty damn good.
Thank you
I’ve felt this way many times. I remember when I was 16 or 17 feeling sad I wasn’t a 12 year old now. In college sometimes I missed high school. Now I graduated college and once I start working I’m going to miss college. I still find happiness sometimes in the present, but the more aware I become of my surroundings the more often I find myself feeling down.
One part that’s hard for me is seeing my parents and siblings age, they’re still all healthy and working and our relationship is honestly better now than it was compared to when I was young, but still makes me sad sometimes, and they’re not even really old yet (mid 50s, siblings mid to late 20s).
I stay in touch with my family including grandparents and visit whenever possible and make sure to try and be a good friend, son, and brother however possible.
The childish excitement I found easily a few years back is harder to find, but going to new beautiful places, seeing amazing landscapes, meeting new people and traveling with those I love brings those feelings back sometimes.
I’m excited to be a dad someday, my parents as first generation immigrants did a lot and achieved their version of the American dream including financial security So I don’t really have to work if I didn’t want to, but I have a different vision for my next generation and want to branch out for a few years to develop and mature.
One thing I feel my parents could have done better was cherish my own and my siblings childhood, but my dad worked so hard in the corporate world and my mom had to run the house with 3 kids and grandparents living together through health ailments and all, we often ate dinners alone and only travelled together if others were visiting us, never together as a family. We had all the private lessons we wanted, but my parents were so busy they couldn’t be there to cheer us on and enjoy the small moments much. I want to give my kids the world and also be there to foster their growth into hopefully virtuous and talented people.
One thing I try to make sure is I don’t miss the present. It’s easy to keep feeling bad about yesterday or anxiously awaiting tomorrow, but we live here, now. So try to find some happiness in that.
I try my best to refuse to become numb, and i often fail. We are here for a blink in time, I think we need to do all we can to appreciate that and make an impact wherever we can, the end of our lives are all guaranteed after all.
So I was born in 2001, and I feel like I am one of the few people that doesn't miss being a kid. I had a fantastic upbringing and I have a lot of great memories, but I love where I am at in life so much more
Everything you are feeling is normal. I am about tweny years older than you and have felt the same as you many times.
I was sexually assaulted when I was 8 and also had a crummy childhood without having parents. Enjoy the ride that is this crazy thing called life - make the most out of every day.
I don't know why, but I really love that phrase.
Stokes feelings of excitement and joy. The intrigue of the unknown experiences, people and places to come.
I've been going through some mental hardships recently and whenever I feel down, I think about the crazy thing called life and realise how fucking grateful I am to be here. No matter what happens, there is always another door to open. Another turn to take. Another experience to be had.
That's why I fucking love life and cannot wait to see what it brings me next.
You're just creating more cognitive dissonance brother. Going through mental hardships while incessantly trying to convince yourself that you should for some reason be grateful for merely being in a specific time and place... the hyperbolic, Reddit-like style of writing doesn't lie. Telling people to be "grateful" for what they have is a vicious poison, some opium that's there to subsume any man's desire to strive to improve his situation. It's the great lie of therapists and Americans, something a female would say - be happy with what you have, don't try anything, be static, be feminine.
Being a kid has its perks, but I love being an independent adult. I suppose being educated and having a high paying job helps.
For example, as a kid, I was always mesmerized by cars at the Auto Show. Now I actually own cars that would be on display. Best part is, sometimes random kids will come up to me to check out one of my cars. I'll let them sit in the driver's seat and take a picture (if their parents allow).
I hope those kids get to be like me when they grow up.
I love this man. You have a passion and now are living it. More power to you!
On behalf of them, thank you for doing that.
I think the hardest part about this is coming to terms with how fast life goes by. It devastates me realizing that my parents have gotten old. It's so sad for me to compare pictures of when I was a kid with my mom and dad and siblings vs now. Everyone has aged so much and it just never stops. It sounds pretty dumb when I type it out, because duh, time goes by, but damn if it is not the most heart wrenching thing to think about. Sometimes it legitimately brings me to tears.
Enjoy every second you get with the people you care about. In the end, thats what will matter the most to me I think.
Same here, I still remember the day I accidentally discovered a couple dozens of photos of my parents when they were from 6 to 15 y/o. I don't know why but all of a sudden I found myself crying like an absolute mess. I guess it's just realizing how someone I've always beheld as "cornerstone", or "someone who can always come and save my ass" is just a kid that is 30 years older than me after all. Now as my parents are back home in China, and I'm here in the states realizing I gotta stick around for quite a while, it's just very sad.Time is fleeting, and all I can say is cherish every moment you have.
Took the words right out of my mouth. Every interaction feels so transactional these days.
I get you but at the same time, now instead of watching movies on Saturday nights you can actually live these movies:
- Looking for excitement ? Sign up to a skydiving course. I have done so and a friend of mine did 300+ jumps in 2 years. This is more fun than watching iron man trust me.
- If you’re still hung up on this iron man thing then go to Dubai and try these flying backpack things, problem solved.
- You like travel movies ? Go spend Christmas at Punta cana and spring break in Tulum. Take your girlfriend/boyfriend to Italy or France.
- You’re single ? Go to Vegas for the weekend and be ready to mingle.
- You like dancing ? Go to salsa classes after work and then attend salsa congresses in Croatia or Morroco
- You love your parents? Invite them on a holiday or send flowers to your mom. You can actually afford this now.
- You have friends ? You can now have real conversations and real friendships vs. teenage flings.
Your whole life is ahead of you. The good thing is that now you have 1) money 2) skills and 3) more freedom to do whatever you want. Set goals, achieve them, enjoy the ride.
From primary school to highschool they were the great years were nothing mattered, then exams started mattering, just finished university and it was the best few years especially my final year.
lol
Can't really relate. My childhood sucked. I love my freedom and financial independence. Plus I now get to experience lots of the fun things I never got to as a kid due to financial constraints, like travelling, going to NFL/NBA/NHL games, etc.
Wake up! You’re an adult now! It’s time to move on and do something with your most precious commodity…and that means making an ish ton of money before you take that dirt nap 😉
Wake up! You’re an adult now! It’s time to move on and do something with your most precious commodity…and that means making an ish ton of money before you take that dirt nap 😉
Wake up! You’re an adult now! It’s time to move on and do something with your most precious commodity…and that means making an ish ton of money before you take that dirt nap 😉
Slightly older but probably a similar stage of life. I've actually felt like my life has progressively improved since childhood in a few ways:
1. Gained professional clarity - I grew up in a town where few kids went into finance, and going to a large university helped me find friends/mentors that gave me a spark. Subsequent internships allowed me to explore almost everything I wanted to within the realm of PE and helped me land a great gig out of school. Is it an office job like any other? Sure, but I chose it because I'm at a growth fund and genuinely enjoy my day-to-day of speaking with entrepreneurs, diving into new tech verticals, learning to structure deals, etc. I chose the profession because I thought it was something I might have a knack for and enjoy, the money was secondary (but nice).
2. Self-discovery - through the process of growing up and putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, I grew into my own skin overtime and figured out what kind of person I wanted to be and who I jived with. There are always things that I wish could be changed, but overall maturity helped me build a better relationship with my family and keep the S/O and friendships that matter.
3. Having fun - I grew up in a pretty boring community and had friends, but kept very few of those going after high school. As many have alluded to, simply having much more freedom and money has significantly bettered my quality of life, whether it's taking the S/O away for a weekend getaway or a Vegas trip with the boys. I'm not much of a material person but I can finally have a nice space of my own (not a shitty college apartment), a car, and treat myself to a classy meal or fashion item from time to time without feeling bad.
Just my 2 cents I'm throwing out there, obviously know this differs from person to person. Cheers mate and hope you keep your head up
you know you can still watch Star Wars and ironman. if you want it to be more real, take some edibles.
now mom doesn't switch off your tv and tells you go to bed. now you can bring girls over and watch Star Wars with them. life is better as an adult, if you make good money.
Growing up isn't so bad. Adults have a lot more understanding of the world and freedom to do a lot more things. As a kid, it's the luck of the draw if you had good parents or not. As an adult, it's up to us how good it is. Make it really good.
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