How to make time for girlfriend

I recently transitioned to FT. It’s a pretty busy team and I usually leave around 10pm ish during the week and often work weekends. Face time is big here too so there isn’t a lot of flexibility with WFH. I sometimes have to cancel plans with friends, including on the weekends.
My dilema is: I've had feelings for a friend from school who's soon starting FT in the same city as me, also in banking but on a less busy group and no face time culture on her team. I know other analyst there and they have a lot more free time compared to me. If I were to pursue a serious relationship with her, I'm unsure how I'd manage it with my demanding schedule. Many people I know in banking seem to have significant others they had before starting FT, but how do you even begin a relationship when you're already stretched thin? Plus, any tips on juggling a demanding job like this while still making time for a social life?

 
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You’re right, this assumes everything goes well and she doesn’t reject me lol (I have reason to believe she won’t). But I wouldn’t want to then fuck it up with her if I can’t dedicate enough time.

She could be wifey material. Give it a shot.

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Focus on getting the relationship before you worry about how you will manage time, while in the hypothetical relationship.

Some things need to be managed by considering the specific (actual) details being relevant at the time.

Especially in NYC, you can't really assume the relationship, merely because you have interest. Life isn't that simple or straightforward. In NYC, you have to assume that she will be considering many possible options, so there will be competition, perhaps overwhelming competition, which may prove a struggle.

Also, remember, in NYC, you will be competing with every other man in the city, including those with significant resources and experience around the scene. That only adds to your difficulty.

If you haven't closed the deal already, I think it's more of a wishful hope at this point. Focus on getting the relationship first.

I like that you are thinking ahead about allocation of time, but I think you need to get thr relationship first.

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